Do you have it, thin skin I mean? I find with melanoma, and think it may be true for many cancer patients, that some times my feelings are raw, dangling nerve ends. Honestly, I don’t intend to let things bother me. Mostly, I am upbeat, positive, and oh so grateful to be alive!
How do you deal with things that people say or do that feel like a negative charge racing through your body, zapping you of any positive energy? I have always been one to ask how someone is…because I really want to know and really care, too. When people ask me how I am, whoa! Do they want to know what is really going on? Best buds, yes, they do. The lady at the bank not so much. I have learned to say “I’m doing okay” to the casual askers, because really they don’t need to hear that my scar tissue feels very tight or that my knees are killing me today. When you think about it, you aren’t going to hear about their life challenges either so get over the woe is me thing!
People tell me I look good. I enjoy hearing that but in the quiet of the night I wonder if people think I should have melanoma marks all over my body? Or I should be deathly thin because I have cancer? Friends, family, and acquaintances may not know how to talk about cancer….remember, everyone feels differently and absorbs information differently. Thin skin or not, enjoy every compliment and kind word. You deserve it!
Right now I choose to believe I am on a healthy path with almost a year since my last tumor was removed. That opens me up to feeling the possibilities, to feeling lighter, to having a tougher skin with less fragile emotions. Don’t get me wrong, I am tough and a fighter. You’ll never see a lot of tears with me, and hey cancer patients we all process in our own way. Don’t feel you are a mess or not doing the human interaction thing well. We each do it our way and we love the skin we’re in!
One of the most interesting comments I had last summer after two facial surgeries and talking with my radiation oncologist about the “plan”….”you’re an odd case, Janis”. Now really did that need to be said? I mean, really, I’ve been living with me for almost sixty years, this is old news! (And a great story for another post!).
So carry on! Thin skin is an emotional trigger for sure as we absorb so much more than those around us can ever imagine. Don’t wear a coat of armor to protect yourself but do what works for you to find the beauty of life. And with all that we cancer patients are taking in, seek counseling if needed. #melanomatheskinwerein #thinskin #cancer
We can-cer vive!