Immortality is not something I seek. How about you? Life is so amazing, and so challenging, too. It’s that balance thing which we live with every day. Live beyond fear and just live!
My grandfather was run over and died, a best friend died far too young and wrongfully, a child died in a terrible accident. Unexpected death is tragic, shocking, and contorts the mind to make sense of it. Emotions are exposed, raw and beyond painful. Pieces never quite fit together again. Trauma and tragedy envelope the unexpected loss.
The one thing we know is that there is only one way out of this life. Is death more palatable for those who know they have only so much time? Would my grandfather have played his hand differently if he knew when his last day was? Would you?
A Fate Worse Than Death
Cancer patients live with the fragility of it all; diagnosis, stages, treatments, and even, survival rates. With my melanoma biopsies, options in life changed: is this deadly?, what is the prognosis?, and projects like getting my “things in order” floated through my mind. Some days, meeting an untimely death might sound easier, but then, you still have today!
I recently read The Time Traveler’s Wife by Audrey Niffenegger. My husband has loved this book for some time; I have at last read it. The beginning was a bit slow and confusing, but I always like to give a book 50-100 pages to develop. And develop it does as Niffenegger creates a story, both intricate and believable. This title offers deep possibilities for discussion.Would I want to know what is ahead? Would you? Is it better that we don’t know?
In reading this book, it reminded me of Natalie Babbit’s Tuck Everlasting, a riveting children’s book that explores the idea of living forever. A town wide read for our small Vermont community many years ago, concepts of eternal life, the benefits of NOT living forever, and avoiding the process of aging were exposed with prolific conversation for all ages. Read it with your child or on your own; maybe it is okay that we have an end to this journey we call life!
“Now Is Eternity;
Now is The Immortal Life” (Richard Jefferies). Find courage in the day that you have; be present now! Human nature seeks hope: in life and in living, in treatments and cures, in one day or one year. Courage lies in the belief of a tomorrow. Find your inspiration to keep moving forward and balance that with what you have right now. Cancer steals time-give yourself what quality you can through meditation, creating positive moments, and making the best of this day. Easier said than done, but make the most of this instant.
On my reading list- The Immortalists by Chloe Benjamin. Yikes! Another book about living and dying. What if we did know what day we would die? Fascinating to consider, how would you live knowing your exact moment of passing? This is one of the titles that made Jimmy Fallon’s summer reading list suggestions and subsequent vote. It’s had rave reviews and will offer another window on life/death debates.
Windows into our future may not be the best idea. These 3 titles glimpse into what “might” be, given that crystal ball. For me, it’s intriguing to play with the possibilities, but I’m a realist. I’m definitely going to read The Immortalists but for now, I intend to pause from ideas of time travel, death, and immortality. It’s not about fear today, it’s just about today, this moment, and about what is. #whatareyoureading #melanomatheskin #melanoma #Tuesdaythoughts #cancer #reading
We can-cer vive!